For better or worse. Unfortunately, the 'worse' happened and now you find your marriage in serious trouble. A broken marriage, or one that seems to be on the decline is difficult to mend. Men who have experienced this situation know exactly what I mean. It is devastating to be left alone - to be without the "one" you got down on your knee for. But, don't lose faith. Getting her to come back is a challenge, but if you put forth the effort and I mean a lot, it's well worth it.
Women have this thing called a heart, that's the first thing you should win back. Focus upon the things you did that helped your wife fall in love with you. Be that man she got all weak in the knees for. Accentuate the time when you two were young and in love. Winning her back now might take a lot of time and effort and patience, but you can do it. Stalking her, calling her, texting her every 5 minutes might not be the smartest thing to do. That will hurt your chances.
Women loved to be told how great they look, sounds like a smart place to start. Remind her of how beautiful you think she is, how pretty her eyes, or hair look today. Remember, keep it simple and to the point, that's what they want to hear. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but those were the things you said to her when you first met, so this is nothing new. Swallow your pride, trust me, it's those things that will get your wife to look at you like she did when you first layed on on her.
Now it's your turn. Realize what mistakes you have made and tell her. Communication is so powerful it can change everything. Change is apart of life, and once you accept that, and tell her, the process will soon be in place. Whatever you do, DO NOT beg for forgiveness. No woman wants to see her husband begging and crying, come on you are a man aren't you. Prove to her that you are serious, actions speak louder than words. So start taking action. Amaze her with your patience, it can be as small as flowers, a dinner date, or even the slightest touch on her skin. If she declines any of your offers, don't make a big deal about it. Women can be like a seed that has been planted. It takes time for it to grow, but with plenty of water, sunlite and some TLC, eventually it will begin to grow.
Try to understand your wife's motives. Think of the things that made her mad at you in the first place, and don't do them anymore. There is a reason for her to be giving you the cold shoulder. Attack those reasons, focus on them, and never do it again.
To win back your wife it's going to take a lot of willpower and patience. Practice positive approaches start by improving yourself first. Once she see's that you are making an effort to improve you, she will start to slowly sprout out of the ground and start to re-grow with you. Be the best person you can possibly be, strong, confident yet willing to change and make the marriage work. Once you have accomplished all this, and she is back in your arms once again, whatever you do don't let her go. Life is to short to watch the women you love leave because you didn't at least try!