When it comes to a relationship men and women keep score very differently, knowing how the opposite sex add up scores can be the key to a happy relationship or marriage or even more important can avoid a relationship from failing.
Whether you like it or not men and women sub consciously have a points system where they evaluate a relationship.
The typical way a man will award points is in his perception of how big the action is and will award more points for big actions and smaller amount of points for smaller actions. As women on the other hand generally award 1 point to an action regardless how big or small it may be.
For example, if a guy wants to score big points he thinks like a man does and thinks that if he does something really big like spend a lot of money on expensive diamonds or jewelry that he will score a large amount of points that may carry him over for a few weeks or a month.
Now most women would be over the moon to receive diamonds and jewelry however given the choice most women would rather receive a love note one day, a rose the next, I call out of the blue just to say I love you the next day and so on. Most women would prefer a lot of smaller actions over a series of days than just one big one every 3 months.
Does this make sense? Big problems often arise in a relationship because we tend to win points using our own gender mindset.
Common arguments that face many relationships are when women say "why don't you bring me flowers anymore?" While the man is thinking "what do you mean I brought you diamond earring just last month"
With this understanding of each other you can learn to appreciate each other more and avoid a broken relationship.
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