When the middle-aged, sexy, successful Stella met the young, virile Winston during her vacation in Jamaica in the movie, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, theyre attraction for each other was unleashed with fiery passion. Then it was unraveled by the harsh criticism society puts on older women dating younger men. Since that movie, the older woman has become known as the cougar, the catch phrase for what seems to be a current trend. Although its never been completely accepted in the past, today she is defined as the older womansecure and liberatedwhos dating the younger man. Is real love possible with such drastic age differences or is cougar dating just a trend?
Thats something I experienced before they gave it a label. I thought something was wrong with me liking women that were older than me. I found that women older than me were more mature and running the street was out of their system. As a young man being very handy around the house and a fabulous cook, I always got my foot in the door, said Damon when asked what he thought about older women dating younger men. He also stated that he has dated women that were older than him by five to fifteen years and was even married to one for six years, a beautiful learning experience, he added.
The cougar dating experience gives younger men a sense of maturity, a feeling of importance and manliness when they can engage in conversation with older women, whom they believe are more intelligent than women their own age. Older women dating younger men tend to be in control of their lives, financially secure, and know what they want; this makes a younger man feel free from the pressure to provide and make the woman happy.
Ty says, Older women are fiscally independent and believe that a man spending money on them is voluntary and not mandatory.